you can preach about slut-shaming all you want, but you can’t deny there’s something very wrong with 13 and 14-year old girls going out in skirts and dresses so short they barely cover their asses and shirts with necklines so low they show off cleave they haven’t got yet, drinking and even smoking and hooking up with guys before they even have a substantial knowledge of how sex and sexual relationships work.
Thank YOU HOLY SHIT
Those girls should not be called ‘sluts’ or judged. Girls are taught by our society that the only thing they have to offer is their sexuality. Bombarded by the media with the message, make up makes you beautiful, skinny makes you popular, your teeth should be whiter and having a boyfriend will complete you.
How many books have you read where the female protagonist’s life is changed because she meets a boy? Have you seen how Barbie dresses(is it appropriate that as 4 year olds girls are playing with a doll who’s bullet boobs are completely disproportionate to her waist and hips, bleach blonde hair is down to her hips, can only wear heels and her feet are a similar size to her hands?) Watched the latest in the stream of pre teen programming Disney is churning out?
We have very few positive female role models for young women, sexual health if taught in schools is extremely focused on the biological aspect and nothing about relationships and respecting yourself and your partner.
At the age of 13 when I went out, my skirts were short, my shirts were low and I would drink vodka. Why? Because I wanted to be liked, have friends and have boys like me. I thought that was the most important thing as otherwise I was worthless. I did well at school (I was registered with NAGATY putting me in the top 12% of the country), was creative, had strong political opinions and a kind, compassionate person but none of that had any value. No one likes a know it all, boys don’t like funny girls, don’t be frigid and boring, people don’t want to talk to girls with ‘strong opinions’.
So yes, there is something very wrong but it isn’t our young women it is the lessons and values we are teaching them. They need to know they are valued for every aspect of their being and not just their appearance and this message needs to come from schools, parents, television, literature, the film industry (don’t even get me started on the film industry) and the waterfall of advertising we are subjected to.